I would love to warn you before you proceed to reading this post, this post is strictly for matured minds. This post has no intention of calling out a particular sex but for education purpose A couple of studies conducted recently have found that the percentage of women who cheat is considerably larger than that of the men contrary to what was expected.
However, the hack laid this truth for everyone to see – women cheat. And now, there are scientific reports that say that they do that more often than men, who usually get all the flak when it comes to infidelity.
The question is why do they cheat in the first place? We decided to take a peek behind the curtain and unearth these reasons for you, and here they are:
1. The Passion and love In Their Marriage Has Dwindled
When couples get married newly, or when in new relationship, but for this post we are basically concentrating on married couples. Newly married couples almost everywhere are filled with the passion of the new founded love and family, the couple tend to do everything together, holding hands, doing their chores together and almost everything together. However as time goes on and children begin to come into the picture, this passion, this love tend to dwindle, some couple especially women tend to shift the love and the passion of their relationship away from the husband to the children.
The men on the other hand might shift their own passion and love from the wife to his job and business and no one makes out time for each other anylonger.
This shift in attention will unknowingly to them bring a rift in their love life and like i said without their knowledge.
What happens at this point is that this passion which nurtures every relationship is lacking and it stifles their love life. The women are wired to seek and desire attention from their Significant Other (SO) and when she doesn’t find that attention which she seeks, she might try to communicate subtly to the husband who is concentrated on his business or job and may not even notice what the wife is trying to communicate, The resultant effect of all these neglect is that the wife may try to seek the attention which she needs from somewhere else and before you know it, it’s already too late.
Takeaway: It is always too expensive not to pay attention to your wife and this goes vice versa.
2. They Seek A Lost Connection
Like i said earlier, paying attention is the only way to connect to your SO. It’s by paying attention that you will seek to understand your SO better. We humans are complicated in so many ways and if you don’t pay enough attention to your SO, you will loose out on getting to know him or her better. Women are even most complicated of all species thus the need to continue to pay attention in order to connect deeply with her.
The mistake most men make is that they think that when you are married, then everything goes. NO, absolute No, you as a man should continue dating your wife even when you are married. Infact it is when you are married that you should upgrade your dating skills, you will still have to take her out, yes you will still have to hold hands in public, you will still have to kiss her at random, you will still have to make her feel loved, that is the key dear Men.
Men if you don’t do all these, you will loose the connection you have with your wife. If you don’t do these, how will you know when she is passing through a difficult time?
These simple things build connection in your marital life and when you don’t do them, don’t blame anybody when your marriage begin to go sideways.
3. They Are Fed Up Of Shouldering The Load Of The Responsibilities
In a recent survey, it has been found that women who were playing a greater role in shouldering the household responsibilities ended up looking for love outside their marriage after facing the indifferent approach of their partners.
This is where almost all men are culpable, letting the woman take responsibility of all the house chores and now you see yourself as the KING because you make the money.
You wake up by 7am, dress up and leave for work. Then she wakes up by 5am and begin to do the house chores, then makes breakfast for you before you leave for your work, she will get the children ready, feed them, take them to school, prepare for her own work or business, she comes back in the evening and faces the same routine and you think all is well.
My brother all is not well, it’s your family here we are talking about and as a matter of necessity you should be very much involved. If you don’t get involved, she will either break down one day or she will eventually get tired of the whole thing. She will begin to resent on you and a rift has already appeared in your marriage. IF she seeks support from somewhere else, don’t blame anyone but yourself.
TAKEAWAY: ALWAYS GET INVOLVED WITH THE DOMESTIC CHORES; WHILE SHE IS COOKING, HELP OUT WITH THE DISHES, YOU CAN EVEN OFFER TO MAKE THE BREAKFAST ATLEAST ONCE IN A WHILE,YOU CAN BATHE THE CHILDREN AND DRESS THEM UP FOR SCHOOL, IT MAKES THEM FEEL LOVED.
4.They Are Tired Of Looking Up To Their Partner For Financial Support.
Gone are the days when women were comfortable with being a house wife.Women have their own aspirations and dreams which they tend to fulfil in their lifetime.Even before you guys got married, women have their own aspirations.
These aspirations involve being financially independent without depending on you for all her financial needs. Infact it is a plus to any man to have a woman who is financially independent. Now it does not mean that if your wife is financially independent, then you should leave all the family expenses to her. Infact it takes a man of sound Self-esteem to manage and handle a Woman who is financially independent.
What i advice men to do is to support your woman in her Career or Business aspirations, give her your maximum support in any way you could knowing fully well that if she succeeds, it is both of you that succeeded.
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Why relagate her to being a house wife and staying at home? it’s a recipe for disaster in your family.
Now some men think that if your wife is financially independent, you will loose your respect as a man, if you think this way, then you need help as a man and you don’t deserve the woman you married.
You should give and support her career or business endeavours, you should help her be the best she can and will ever be.
Women with the right support from their SO will always exceed expectations in their various endeavours. So dear Men, always support and encourage your wifes and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.
5.They Want To Save Their Marriage
It might seem incredulous, but it is true. It has been found that the 1 out of 5 unhappily married women are in marriages where their intimate needs are not being met. They want to save their marriage by going out to meet their needs and then coming back to you. This is because they have tried their possible best to communicate their needs to you which was lack, but you weren’t paying a bit of attention.
So, if you fear that your partner is going astray, try to figure out if it is because of the reasons mentioned here. If you find it is so, then try to treat the root cause of the problem before reacting negatively to it’s symptom. Issues in marriages are meant to be handled by both of you and seeking the root causes of the issues and actually treating the root causes will eventually go a long way in solving your marital issues.
There is no marriage exempt from problems and issues, and we advice couples that the only person to seek solution from for your marital issues is God. Go to him in prayers and tell him your marital challenges. The fact that you admit that you have a problem in your marriage is the first step in solving such problem, and it takes courage and understanding to even figure out that you have a problem in your home.
If we can heed to these advices, a lot of broken homes would have been prevented, but we can start from here and make adjustments.
If you have anything to add to these, feel free to tell us in the comment section.